Abortion is a deeply divisive social conflict. Conversations about social conflicts tend to follow a pattern that is typified this week by the exchange between the University of Calgary administration and Campus Pro-Life.
Interactions around social conflicts tend to follow this script: First, a group raises an issue about which they feel passion and energy. Second, another group states it is offended, or irate, or an equally passionate and energetic response that is oppositional to the first group. Third, someone in authority becomes concerned enough to take a stand, which usually supports the original status quo that existed before the first group raised the issue. Finally, the media gets interested because it’s now a public conflict.
This script almost inevitably becomes a standoff where no one can back down without losing face or feeling that some higher principal has been betrayed. Where the ‘rule of law’ prevails the standoff will eventually end either peacefully or with minimal use of force, albeit with bad feelings on all sides. In less fortunate examples, or more extreme cases of social conflict, the standoff culminates with someone in authority calling in men and women in uniforms to end it.
Recognizing the pattern means it should be possible to change the script. Pattern recognition is an initial step to improving conflict interactions. So, that next questions are: how to change the pattern, and to what new script?
How to change the pattern: Since 1992, dialogue groups comprised of pro-life and pro-choice activists have been meeting to find common ground. They begin with one-day workshops and, in some cases, have continued meeting to jointly work on the systemic societal problems that create unwanted pregnancies.
The new script: Facilitated dialogue groups change the polarized rhetoric. Dialogue groups exchange narratives, among other exercises, as trust-building conversations. As former adversaries become acquainted they rarely change their opinions about abortion. However, through dialogue they expose the stereotypes about their opponents and change their opinions about each other. This creates the conditions for finding common ground.
Breaking down the barriers through dialogue and shared knowledge rather than legal action and threats, does not make the social conflict go away. People will still disagree about abortion. What does go away is the typical pattern of standoff, which is a lose/lose proposition for everyone. In dialogue they find principles they can agree upon, which is a win/win.
It’s a script revision worth trying.