Archive for June, 2009

Conflict Prevention?

The recent report that there is a massive disproportion of boy children over girl children in some countries confirms what has been known for a while. Preference for male heirs has put the lives of baby girls at risk. This has been deplored for all the reasons of law, morality, equal rights, human security and responsibility to protect life.

Another reason to deplore sex selection however it occurs, does not get spoken of very much but it is chilling. When countries have a critical mass of young unmarried men, with no hope of achieving the successful mating and parenting that sentient beings are hard-wired to seek, the common outcome is that those countries may go to war with their neighbours. A surplus of single men between the ages of 18 and 35 has been linked as a factor in starting wars.

For all of the correct moral and ethical choices, the fate of these girl babies must be a priority. For all of the hopes of social change leading to world peace, this situation must be addressed now.

Lesson on Conflict from the Galapagos Islands

As well as enthralling and enchanting, the Galapagos Islands are enlightening. Iguanas, blue footed boobies, sea lions, and penguins, are abundant and have complex social communities. It was fascinating to see their dynamic interactions in species and among species. Here is one key thing I learned about conflict from observing the natural environment in a place where nature is still ‘natural’.

Every living thing has a conflict during the day. Some critter gets too close and gets hissed at for some reason. They know when to fight, and when to retreat. When they lose, they find something else to do and someplace else to stand. When they win, they get back to their day. They carry grudges, sure, but it doesn’t seem to define their lives. They have balance.

 We talk about needing work - life balance in our complex lives. I suggest it would also be healthy to have work - life - conflict balance, since our conflicts are just as inevitable as those of the critters.